Monday, May 12, 2014

How Do You See Yourself?

Many people are struggling today with their self image and their life.  They are 'stuck' and are feeling helpless as they wish to move forward but see themselves as lacking direction.  Here is some advice from life coach Brian Tracy on the subject.

Your self image is made up of three parts, each of which affects the others.  Understanding these three parts enables you to put your hands on the keyboard of your mental computer.  When you learn to take charge of the development of a new positive self-image, you can then control life for the future.    

Determine Your Direction
The first part of the self-concept is the "self-ideal."  Your self-ideal largely determines the direction in which you are going with your life.  It guides the growth and evolution of your character and personality.  Your self-ideal is a combination of all the qualities and attributes of other people that you most admire.  Your self-ideal is a description of the person you would very much like to be if you could embody the qualities that you most aspire to. 

Strive Toward Excellence
Throughout your life, you have seen and read about the qualities of courage, confidence, compassion, love, fortitude, perseverance, patience, forgiveness and integrity.  Over time, these qualities have instilled in you an ideal to which you aspire.  You might not always live up to the very best that you know but you are constantly striving to be a better person in light of those qualities that you value so highly.  In fact, everything that you do on a day-to-day basis is affected by your comparing your activities with these ideal qualities and you striving to behave consistently with them. 

Clarity is Essential
Successful individuals have very clear ideals for themselves and their careers.  They are also very clear about being excellent in every part of their work and personal lives.  Unsuccessful individuals, on the other hand, have fuzzy ideals.  They do not give the subject much thought.  One of the primary characteristics of successful people, in every walk of life, is that they have very clearly defined ideals and are aware of whether or not their current behaviors are consistent with their idealized behaviors.

Set Challenging Goals
Part of your ideals are your goals.  As you set higher and more challenging goals, your self-ideal improves and crystallizes.  When you set goals for the kind of person you want to be and the kind of life you want to live, your self-ideal rises and becomes a greater guiding and motivating force in your life.

Your Future is Unlimited
Perhaps the most important thing for you to realize is that whatever anyone else has done or become, you can do or become as well.  Improvements in your self-ideal begin in your imagination.  The wonderful thing is that your imagination sets no limits except for those you accept.

What is your ideal vision of the very best person you could possibly become?  How would you behave each day if you were already that person?  Asking yourself these questions and then living your life consistent with the answers is the first step to creating your ideal image.

Remember you were made in God's image and His ideals for you are achievable.